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My Greatest Goal

My greatest goal

Upon finding this video I began to reflect on the importance of the role of the father. A good father teaches his children to be the best they can be and motivates them to make the right choices. Being a good father is one who not only provides for his family, but is one that gives his full heart to the growth and success of his children. I am so grateful for a father who raised me to believe in myself and teach my to seek after all that is good.

My greatest goal in life is to be the best dad that I can be. I am so excited to be a dad and participate in God’s greatest gift. I am preparing myself so when that day comes I am ready. In preparation I wrote a letter to my future eternal companion. This is an excerpt:

“I haven’t met you yet because I am not ready. I have felt so strongly in the last couple months a prompting that I need to become a man. At times I have misinterpreted these feelings by thinking I need to get eat a dozen eggs, learn to box, chop down a tree, or grow facial hair, but deep down I know what it really means. It means that I need to be the man that can one day have the privilege and blessing of taking care of a beautiful daughter of God. This man is a righteous priesthood holder who prioritizes his duty to God high above anything else. This man will do anything for the love of his life and for his family. This man is an amazing father who provides true security and welfare to his wife and kids. This man has a pure heart and loves his fellow man. This man will never truly deserve to be married to such a precious gem but will try all of his life to do so. This man is so deeply in love with you.

 

With you our lives will be a fairytale. We will not settle for ordinary for we will set out to do so many extraordinary things together. We were made for each other.  I hope that we never forget that. You are the reason for who I was, who I am, and who I will become. Even the thought of you fills my entire soul with hope and joy. You are my angel.”

Habits

The Psychology of habits

 

1 Goal=1 Habit

 

Why do we form habits?

We form habits so that we can be more efficient and effective. Before a habit is formed we have to make a conscious effort for every process and decision we make. Can you imagine having to make an active decision or have a concentrated effort every time that you tie your shoes in the morning or every time you drive to work. Having to make active decisions can be very taxing on your body and mind. Our brains use habits to decrease mental effort to help you focus your energy on learning and higher level thinking.

Too many goals

We have a tendency to want to change too many things in our lives or try to do too many things at once. Many times resolutions and goals are ineffective because you spread your efforts so thin across a plane that there can be no realistic way of achieving all of them. Instead of being successful with one goal you become discouraged at not being able to fulfill any of your ten goals. There is a way to accomplish a majority of these goals by only focusing your efforts towards one of these things

The Habit chain

The chain link habit doesn’t even need to be the most important habit. It just needs to be a habit that is positively associated with the rest of these habits. Every habit is associated with another related habit.Habits may be the direct result of another habit previously exercised. These associated habits are collected into the same pool and grouping of habits because your brain treats them the same way. E.X.; Smoking, unhealthy eating, not exercising, low self control. These related habits are not only addictions but have the common theme of disregard for your health. If you have a habit of disregarding your health your brain will keep you from making conscious and concentrated efforts on issues related to your health. This association has the same principle for positive habits, e.x.: productivity, responsibility, and confidence in high pressure situations. When you create a habit of being productive, your brain will start associating that activity with similar processes. Your brain tells you that it is important to work hard so subconsciously the first thing you do when you get to work you don’t have to think “What do I need to do next? Or, what can I do to fill my time?” Your habit of productiveness brings you from one task to the next without you really even thinking about it. This habit of productivity helps build and maintain your habit of responsibility. When you are productive you don’t have to work hard to take care of the most important things. Your brain has already prioritized them by what you have used your time to do.

The Power of Habits

By creating and focusing your efforts towards one positive habit, you will subconsciously start a chain of other positively associated habits. This is the power of habits.